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Oct. 3rd, 2007 01:00 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
fbhjrYesterday was the happiest day I’ve had in almost 6 weeks.
Today starts with a “you’re not welcome in my house” (as if I didn't know that already) and now has a poll at 15:1 against my wife coming back to me. And, I’m the 1.
That’s pretty sad.
Today starts with a “you’re not welcome in my house” (as if I didn't know that already) and now has a poll at 15:1 against my wife coming back to me. And, I’m the 1.
That’s pretty sad.
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Date: 2007-10-03 05:37 pm (UTC)A kind of reassurance that I wasn’t wrong when I said her friends were against me.
At least she can't say "you're wrong about that" anymore.
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Date: 2007-10-03 05:57 pm (UTC)I'm going to call in a few minutes
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Date: 2007-10-03 06:31 pm (UTC)If you need your friend’s permission to move back in with me, then it’s hard to say that you do.
“I love Brian and I don't think anyone should get to dictate what sort of relationship I have with him, or anyone else” is what you posted about Brian. (9/20/07 11:42 AM)
Yet, today you’re letting other people vote on if you come back to me. There’s no poll here about if you should continue with him.
That you’re sure of, me you’re not.
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Date: 2007-10-03 07:11 pm (UTC)Obviously you are quite distressed and not thinking clearly, and I get that.
However if your statement about "You're not welcome in my house" is supposed to characterise my comment then you really need to take another look. In fact my comment was intended to assure you that the only reasons you were not included in the invite had to do with the health issues involved and what Lee felt she could handle. It had little to do with your situation. (As I said initially, it's not about you). In fact there were several other friends mentioned that got the same response.
(If you recall we actually called off the earlier visit for the same reason, and that involved several others as well - it wasn't personal then, either.) I also wanted to assure you that this call was not made by Holly. But by us.
As to the poll.
This is not a vote for or against your marriage. It was an opinion poll on housing options. Regardless of how much either or both of you may wish it to be so, you can not rush the process. So in my case at least, it was a matter of does she stay where she is, (wonderful as it may be, there is a certain freedom to having your own little neutral space to work things out in) or find a space that will work for her while she figures things out.
I'm sorry you are in such a bleak place that every thing seems like it is a personal attack. Speaking for myself, I can assure you that was not the intention.
I don't want to create any additional drama for you so I'll refrain from offering comments or support for awhile.
I just wanted to clarify this as I have NEVER told anyone they are not welcome in my house, and I sure as hell would not be starting with you.
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Date: 2007-10-03 07:28 pm (UTC)If you had made even one nice comment about how Holly and I both posted that we enjoyed yesterday together I would believe you.
But, no positive statements about what Holly and I both viewed as a good day together, and only a "we invited HER".
Just in case, I ran your comment past several other people to ask them what I was being told by your statment.
Every single one of them said "you're not welcome there". That included men and women. Single and married people. People in good relationships and bad.
All gave the same answer.
So, it's not just me. It's not just "my pain".
And, as I said, I already knew that.
Don't want to post? OK. Whatever. My posts are open. Anyone can reply if they want. Anyone can not reply if they want. Do whatever you want with them.
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Date: 2007-10-03 08:23 pm (UTC)I want 20 to 1 by dinner time!
She's got 70 people who can vote in that poll, go click on it!
Tonight I spray paint the maile black!
Bwahahahaha!
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Date: 2007-10-03 11:43 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-10-03 11:52 pm (UTC)no subject
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