Sad

[fbhjr]

Today it is 25 years since my last contact with my sister.
Yesterday was 5 weeks since I send her the postcard saying I’d pay for her to come to Disney with us next month.

I didn’t really think she’d respond.
Neither of us respond well to being bribed. It’s been used too often against us.

Of course, for all I know she may not be able to make the trip. She’s 71. Her mother died at 47. Our father died at 85 so who knows what shape she’s in?

The only reason I think she’s still there and alive is she’s still in the phone book and various similar listings. That would persist a while after she died or moved, but not 25 years.

The day after tomorrow is the 19th anniversary of our father dying. I had written to her about that, but she never responded in any way.
I guess if you don’t respond to the death of a parent, I shouldn’t have put much hope in Disney doing it…

I will continue to write to her from time to time.
But, the most likely possibility is I will only hear any news about her when she has died, and maybe not even then.
More likely the phone listing in her name will eventually go away and I’ll have to guess why.

I do hope she’s happy doing whatever she’s doing.
I’m sad it doesn’t include me, but she made that choice and I can’t unmake it for her.

Comments

[chris_warrior]

hug@

i think the one consolation of doing all you can is that - if it still doesn't work - you did all you could. it isn't on you.