Pleasant?

[fbhjr]

I think my wife is an intelligent, talented, compassionate, interesting person.
She seems utterly convinced what I want is pleasant.
Pleasant has never been on my list of things that attracted me to her.
She’s got this “if I just behave and keep my head down things will be OK” attitude I don’t understand.
I need to be shown she loves me. I need to know she cares.
Pleasant doesn’t do that.
Houseplants are pleasant.
Elevator music is pleasant.
The woman I fell in love with was exciting, dynamic, curious, and sexy.
She was many, many things.
Pleasant wasn’t one of the things that came to mind.

Why is she so convinced that’s what I want?
It isn’t.
She’s giving me something I don’t want, am not interested in and doesn’t help me.
But, seems utterly convinced it’s what I’m asking for.
I don’t know what to do about that.

Comments

[yebo.livejournal.com]

Sad to say, there isn't a whole lot you can do, other than give her reassurance that pleasant isn't what you want. Of course, you need to be prepared for a reaction, pleasant or otherwise, to the reassurance....

[fbhjr.livejournal.com]

We did talk a lot more about it over the weekend.
Hopefully we worked some of it out.
But, I do really think that a lot of our problems come from her reacting to what she thinks I want instead of what I do want.