My sister has died.

[fbhjr]

My sister has died.
I got the call from the county office where she lived while at my cousin’s funeral yesterday.
From what I can tell, they found her body in her apartment some time in October.
They couldn’t find any contacts, so the county had her cremated and her remains sent to the county office.
I’m told the landlord was supposed to contact whoever was on her lease as an emergency contact, but I certainly didn’t hear anything and when I called my mother and brother to tell them, they seemed surprised.

And, if the landlord found her when looking for the rent, it seems like no one noticed her missing and went looking for her.

When my cousin died last week, I sent a postcard to let me sister know (as I didn’t think she’d open a letter) and had my phone number on it.
So, that got to the county office and they called.
But, they called while I was at my cousin’s funeral so my phone was off. When I got the voice mail from the county asking me to call, I was sure of what it would be.
I was after the office hours, so some sheriffs deputy answered and told me wha they could.

Today I should get a call from the office workers so I can pay for the cremation and probably have her remains shipped to me.

My relationship with my sister was strained, even if growing up she was totally my hero who introduced me to so many things I still like in my life.
I wrote about it 10 years ago. Nothing about this story changed until yesterday, which is covered above.
https://fbhjr.livejournal.com/593948.html or https://fbhjr.dreamwidth.org/593002.html

Comments

[threemeninaboat]

This is so awful, every part of it. I am so sorry.

[susandennis]

famlies are hard.

[palusbuteo]

I am so sorry. and it sounds like such a sad story/situation for her too.

if there's something (we) can do to help, you know how to reach us.

[fauxklore]

I'm so sorry.

[chris_warrior]

<3 my condolences, Frank.

[msmidge]

That's tough. I'm so sorry.

[brickhousewench]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Ever since you first wrote about her, I have had a secret wish that you two would be able to reconnect, and now it will never happen. =(

[fbhjr]

Thank you. I had hoped for that, even though I've known for a long time this was probably the way it would happen.

[velvetchamber]

I'm so very sorry to hear that there is so much hurt in your family's life. And that it could not be resolved. Hopefully your sister did have a good and fulfilling life, even if it was not adjacent to yours. And even if the history of it all hurt, it must have been a good thing for her to know at the back of her mind that your love for her was true. It makes sense not to be able to divorce the pain from the love in these circumstances, but you clearly show it was there.