Question #7

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This is in answer to the frozendoll meme I started earlier.

#7) Your first boy/girl friend
Another question that is hard to answer.
You could make a case for Julie when I was in
kindergarten.  We were certainly taunted about that.  But, we were 5.

When I was in highschool I almost but not quite dated several people.  I
was in a youth organization and traveled all over the country for it.
Almost everywhere we went the social activity was a dance.  I was a
national officer, and the gender ration was about 60/40 female/male.  So, I
often escorted young women my age to these dances in a way that was almost,
but not quite a date.  Maybe if they hadn’t lived thousands of miles away
and I saw them more than once or twice a year.
There was one young woman only an hour from where I lived, Sandra.  And, at
almost all events in the local area she and I were paired up.  All of the
adult leaders of the group thought we were a perfect match.  But, she was
pretty clear that I was not the kind of person she wanted to end up with
(rich) so we never really dated.  Only went to dinners, dances and such
together.

When I started college there was a woman I thought I was dating.  For that
first semester we went to the movies together, went out to pizza together
and spent lots of time talking with each other.
I was pretty broken up when at the end of the semester she dropped out of
school to go home and try and get her highschool boyfriend to marry her.  I
was told that we hadn’t been dating, had no relationship and weren’t even
friends.  She told me I had imagined the whole thing and should just forget
she ever existed.  (Apparently my imagination extended to my roommate
remembering us hanging around together, all of my friends remembering it,
and my family asking “what happened to that nice girl you were dating that
we met on parent’s day?”  I guess I have a really strong imagination.)

I also don’t count that above girl’s roommate who said “I’m sorry Kathy
dumped you, why don’t you just have sex with me until my boyfriend gets
back from Christmas break?”
I did not take her up on that.

So, the first person I could really call a girlfriend and be sure it was
true was Attila the Hun.
OK, that isn’t her real name.  That’s just what my wife and I call her now.*
We dated for the second half of my freshman year and almost all of my
sophomore year.
She was not a very good girlfriend.
WPI had 7 guys for every gal there.  So, it wasn’t the easiest place to
find a girlfriend.  And, I was often reminded that should I choose not to
supply her with the gifts she demanded there were plenty of other guys who
would do so.  And, since two of my roommates made it very clear that was
true, I kept dating her.
Finally, one late winter night in the rain, she called and told me to go
get her a pizza and bring it over to her house a mile away.
As I got ready to go out in the rain, one of my gay friends came over.
“I don’t know why men date women,” he said.  “But, in this case, I REALLY
don’t understand.
“Can you explain to me why she is worth all this?”
I thought about it while I put on my shoes.
“I’m going to have to get back to you on that,” I told him.
That night over at her place with the pizza, I put a lot of thought into
the relationship and its value to me.
We broke up about a week later.
Three months after that I met the woman who is now my wife.

*The Attila nickname started many years ago when her boyfriend after me
(now husband of many years) was attending a party at our apartment.  (We
had a lot of parties back then.)
She suddenly burst in wearing a fur coat and hat he had bought her,
demanded her boyfriend, grabbed him and dragged him into my roommates room
and shut the door behind them.
“Who was that, Attila the Hun?” one of my (now) wife’s friends asked.
My (now) wife and I looked at each other.
“Yes,” we said.
And, we’ve called her that ever since.

Comments

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That does sounds like a very powerful imagination, capable of bending reality to its will!

Maybe your boss will ask you to start imagining the shipment of the production robot freezers on time if he finds out how strong it is. :-)