Having to re-write your coping script from a seriously painful past is just so hard, for some people it's just impossible, and I sympathize with your sister while also totally getting where you are coming from on this.
My baby sister, it turns out, was the one thing worth turning the lifeboat around for. Never have I regretted coming back for her but often I have wondered if there wasn't another option. She was 5 when I left, there would have been NO way for me to have a relationship with her without at least burying the script, if not rewriting it, with my mother.
Even so, so many things would be simpler if I had just kept rowing...but I wouldn't have my baby sister. There's a cost no matter what decision you make.
So, yeah, I sympathize with all parties on this one.
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My baby sister, it turns out, was the one thing worth turning the lifeboat around for. Never have I regretted coming back for her but often I have wondered if there wasn't another option. She was 5 when I left, there would have been NO way for me to have a relationship with her without at least burying the script, if not rewriting it, with my mother.
Even so, so many things would be simpler if I had just kept rowing...but I wouldn't have my baby sister. There's a cost no matter what decision you make.
So, yeah, I sympathize with all parties on this one.